11 Dec mirror mirror on the wall…
The meaning of self-love is defined as “love of self” or “regard for one’s happiness or advantage.” It influences who you are and the images you project to the people around you, at school, in your community, to your family, and your friends. It is not just feeling good or looking great in your clothes. It is a way of being that grows from an appreciation of oneself through meaningful and thoughtful actions. It is when you can look at your reflection in the mirror and see more than your outer beauty but your beauty within.
Self-love is self-care. It is the way we care for ourselves to keep us at our best, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It accepts the good and bad of ourselves and strives to change what we are uncomfortable with through meaning and mindfulness.
How can we achieve self-love??? Start by taking an inventory of who you are, recognizing the great things about yourself, and noticing things you want to work on holding yourself reasonable to these changes while practicing self-forgiveness. Become mindful of what you think, feel, and desire. Practice good self-care through healthy daily activities and social interactions. Find your happy place where you can relax, reflect, and breathe. Start practicing self-kindness, be aware of the negative self-talk in your head, and mindfully try to be positive.
Setting intentions or goals, while sometimes can be challenging, can allow you to live with purpose and meaning. Accomplishing your goals will make you feel good about yourself and create a feeling of self-love.
In the end, creating self-love is really about creating a healthy relationship with yourself. Like all relationships, this takes time and effort. It is a constant state of being the evolves every minute of every day with every action and thought. It is a journey that changes as we change and grow. Committing to these changes and allowing your mind and body the flexibility to unfold will open you up to incredible possibilities in life and will enable you to love the person you see in the mirror.
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do” Brene Brown.
-Bethany Kassar, LCSW